When someone leaves you, it’s important to release him/her. And know it doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. It just means that their part in your story is over. Your story will go on.
Instead of stressing over the loss of this person, you must face forward, happy in the knowledge that the empty space they’re leaving behind is clearing up space for someone far more right for you—someone you’ll now be far wiser at recognizing that they’re far more right!
Also, I believe much of the pain of a breakup comes from having a life plan with which you have fallen in love. When it does not work out, you become angry that you now have to pursue a new life plan. If you ever want to tame your inner demons, you must consciously choose never to become too attached to any particular life plan—and always remain open to the idea that there might be an even better life plan for you. In fact, in my life, I’ve often discovered than my Plan Bs are even better than my Plan As. (Ditto with my Plan Cs!) Embracing detachment as a way of life will always give you a healthier sense of peacefulness when you get plunked into one of life’s potholes!
You must view your life with what I call “kindsight.” Instead of slapping your forehead and asking, “What was I thinking?” you must breathe and ask the kinder question, “What was I learning?”
Basically, a bad break up is never meant to teach you, “I’ll never fall in love again.” It’s meant to teach you, “Now I better know what makes for healthful, happy love, and, thanks to this break up, I’m now better able to recognize it and snag it!”
Written by Karen Salmansohn, best selling author.
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